Truth be told, this episode was a challenge for us. It was a challenge to record and a challenge to edit. It's about disappointment. Admittedly, not a happy topic, and disappointment will happen. It's never easy. How do YOU handle it? Do you allow it to ruin your future expectations? Or is there another way out? In this episode Soul interviews Tori, as a way to discuss this uncomfortable topic. In our usual Torrid Souls raw, unscripted and candid way, we express our feelings after experiencing our very first disappointing escapade. As always, we talk our way through (the dark emotions that come up) and find the lesson that makes us even better together. Expect that disappointment will happen. Don't let it deject you. There are valuable lessons in it. It's not about the fail. It's about the getting back up and the continuing on. We chat about the importance of having a voice, speaking up when things aren't going as planned, assumptions and intimacy. And we talk about panties too! Yes we do!
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Podcasts and Resources Mentioned:
Online Swinger Dating Sites:
- SLS (affiliate link)
- SDC (affiliate link)
- Kasidie (affiliate link)
- Cafe Desire – primarily Southern Ontario, Canada and Area
Interesting Quotes:
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“There's this fantasy about being with two women”
- “It was almost like he didn't need to perform, that we were there for him”
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“Take the time to read what's on the profile, as we took the time to write it”
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“He wasn't mean, he wasn't rude, he was just insipid, to use your words”
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“There's a difference between being mean and being clear”
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“Needs to be mentioned if it impacts the experience”
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“There needs to be a bit more discussion”
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“Makes some people say I'm not meeting online anymore”
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“I understand now how people were jaded and frustrated”
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“I'm hoping that we can take this… and change the way we do it”
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“What is your experience with being with more than 1 woman at a time”
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“We might actually have to come up with interview questions”
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“So much like business world, it blows my mind”
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“It's going to evolve”
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“I know originally when I heard about wanting to know people, I shied away from that”
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“It's not that you are in their lives”
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“She got stood up twice in a week”
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“Frustrated to the point of tears”
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“I wore a short skirt, and you told me not to wear underwear”
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“This is the first time to feel that let down”
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“That's part of what is interesting and frustrating when you are meeting people”
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“How can we use this to get better, to help other people”
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“Everything we do in live is living and learning”
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“Don't have to stop or give up, just need to change something”
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“Sex – people who are having it are happier than people who are not having it”
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“If you are not having sex, you are closing a part of to yourself and to others”
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“Becoming a member of this lifestyle means you open yourself up to other people”
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“You can never learn about yourself, just being by yourself”
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“You really don't know who you are until you are around other people”
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“Introspection is a limited benefit”
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“Draw a wheel, with different aspects of life”
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“One heck of a bumpy ride”
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“Introspection vs Inter-relational skills”
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“That's not a very smooth road through life”
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“Put person who is normally zen on their own into an intimate space for a length of time”
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“Intimacy happens with proximity and with frequency”
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“Shit is going to come up”
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“More shit is going to come up”
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“It's not about running away from it, or you stay in the same place”
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“Honesty and authenticity for us, is very important”
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“Educating people that it's not an assumption”
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“Some people are not comfortable talking”
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“You say – Actually that's not what works for me”
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“I just kind of grin and bear it”
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“In that situation there is no harm whatsoever in saying actually that doesn't work for me, please do this instead”
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“It's a good teachable moment”
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“Don't assume all women like the same thing”
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“Discuss before, or have a code word”
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“The negotiation of the whole situation”
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“I'm one kind of personality, and you are another”
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“You know how to redirect them lovingly”
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“Put on your big girl panties – lingerie, bra, underwear, skives, undergarments”
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