Our listeners already know that we are pretty clear about finding (and getting) what we want in the lifestyle so join us for this episode, recorded in front of a live audience at Valentine's in Niagara. Have even better sex. Get what you really, really want. Yes!.. Yes!.. Yes! Come and get it – the answer is in this episode. Getting what you want is based on your wiring, and in this episode you'll not only discover what your pattern is (with a quick and easy quiz), you'll also learn how to feed that pattern (and your partner's too). Wait! there's more. Good news… once you know what you want, you can get it! Check us out this VIN2020 episode and learn how to get what you really, really want. Come get yourself some muy sexy results.
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Valentine's in Niagara – TorridSouls.com/vin (affiliate link)
Recipe for homemade Tequila Cream
Carli-Jo Cannibis Sensuality Coach – TorridSouls.com/coach
Erotic Blueprint online quiz – Jaiya – TorridSouls.com/blueprint (affiliate link)
Bliss Cruise – TorridSouls.com/bliss (affiliate link)
Nuru Slippery Gel (affiliate link)
Free Download through Audacity of “Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking” – book by Susan Cain – TorridSouls.com/book (affiliate link)
“Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking” book by Susan Cain (affiliate link)
Naughty in N'awlins – TorridSouls.com/nin (affiliate link)
TorridSouls.com/desire (affiliate link)
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TorridSouls.com/NIN – Naughty in N'awlins (affiliate link)
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Interesting Quotes:
- Let's get them some Tequila Cream
- Our journey into the Swinging Lifestyle was more about finding ways to get more sexy with one another
- In getting what you want you actually have to know what you want
- Once you discover who you are, what you want, what turns you on, what turns your partner on
- To be able to have language on how you are wired
- 5 blueprints: Sensual, Energetic, Sexual, Kinky, Shapeshifter
- We used to be married to men, that's a different map
- Gotta figure this thing out
- The Energy of a situation has to be really great – connectedness with partner
- Compersion – Getting extreme joy out of my partner feeling joy
- We tend to play with single men
- Being close by, I feel it in my whole body
- I can actually have orgasm without being touched
- Sensual – everything has to be perfect, the lighting, smell, clean, list in my head, feel good, look good, smell good, taste good, or I am outta there
- If people start their chatter, she's done
- challenge to get myself into the space
- we would dance, by the time I'm in the mood it's 3 in the morning
- dance, get a massage, alcohol — take you out of your head and get you into your body
- Sexual – really about the genitals, visuals, penetration, orgasm – if that doesn't happen, what's the point
- I get very grabby when in my sexual
- turns me on when I reach for things, pull things, squeeze things
- physical pleasure and the satisfaction
- sexuals and sensuals often end up in play spaces like this – don't always get along well if don't respect the way each other is
- nothing wrong with either one, just a different way that they are wired
- Kinky – push the boundaries – all of you have some of this, because you are here
- Shapeshifter – someone who will take on the persona of their partner or partners
- may feel something is missing, depending on partner or partners
- givers – may feel a lack
- look at what they put out first – whatever they offer first is likely their primary
- 80 to 90% is body language
- Sexuals like to use dirty talk, piercings
- Energetics, due to a strong response, do people take that as indication to move forward?
- As an energetic, have had a tendency to shut down
- Now that I have words for it, know that I'm not just a sensitive mess
- Energetics and Sensuals are most scared of lifestyle world, because of the sexuals and what we would term as intense
- Nothing wrong with a person being a sexual asking for exactly what they would like, if no, they move on
- It's not a judgement when you get that is what feeds them
- Not hurting self, others or property
- Here grab my dick, another sexual would say, ya I will grab that
- We're not experts, we don't teach this – that's how we do our podcast, we learn something and we share it
- Coach through Zoom calls
- We are under renovation – been together for many years.
- This is uncovering things that can be kind of messy
- the good part is we are starting to feed each other's desires
- Adventure dates
- Kink list – want, willing, hell no
- Being the personality that I am, I like to research
- I packed Poly plastic, powder that you put in hot water
- Why is she putting the kettle on?
- I blindfolded her
- for sensuals, blindfolds are awesome!
- We are learning rope ties, single column, tied wrists and legs in different directions
- smell of hemp rope
- impact toys, flogger, paddle
- the sensual side of rope the untying is just as sensual as the tying – rub the rope on itself and it vibrates
- rolled me over and the comforter rolled on top of me, the weight of the blanket – part of the sensual
- rope on your list, teasing on your list,
- it was warm and you drizzled it on me
- then I did body slide, ended up being a giggly pile of slime
- erotic wrestling was on my list
- she's got it all covered for about the next 10 years
- I can be sensual, sexy, kinky if that's the thing that turns you on, because that's what motivates me
- My motivation as a swinger is not my own sexual gratification, rather figure out what makes people happy and give that
- Have a hard time getting out of my head, especially in the lifestyle
- The sexual that gets it, that we are not all the same
- If I have my eyes closed are people going to think I'm trying to shut them out
- THC/CBD products that will help you
- microdosing, the tiniest amounts 1 or 2mg
- that's something she has found to shut down her mind, let her focus on the moment
- I need that thing to shut my brain off “fireball”
- we are actually going to bring earplugs or airpods
- blindfold me and “take me baby”
- a bunch of other people like you in this room
- If you see me with a blindfold on, come on over
- As a sexual, what is it like as awoman in thelifestyle
- I come across as pretty agresive, overt, people are taken aback as my assertiveness
- Sexuals are about the goal
- as a sexual, can learn, that not everybody else is
- kinky – when you gotta sneak it in because the kids are coming home soon, elevator
- the things that motivated us, was not as exciting as the other stuff we started doing
- the kinky that motivated us, made us aware of a whole lot of sensual stuff
- courtship rituals that are in the lifestyle
- extravert/introvert/ambivert
- how you know you are an introvert, the more you people, the gas tank gets lower and lower
- as an extrovert, people feed energy, just keeps building
- It may not be that they are not interested in me, it may just be that they are an introvert
- extrovert can be valued in society
- introverts can start to feel that there is something wrong with them
- RBF – resting bitch face = just taking it in, and look really pissed off
- ambiverts – can be situational, not about labelling, just giving language
- I'm perfectly imperfect and imperfectly perfect
- Book: Quiet by Susan Kane – shows the power and strength of introverts and how to work together in society
- Quote: if you're not growing, you're dying
- Humans are constantly changing when growing
- stay curious
- I could use those numbers – I'm 30% kinky, I wonder what that's all about
- life is like trying on a sweater
- nothing is a commitment that we are going in that direction
- we have an audience, we are not just talking to each other in our bathroom
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